Finding family members after 40 plus years

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Due to the loss of my sister I found 3 other 1/2 sisters and a brother I have not spoken to in 40 some years. My niece from that side of my family reached out after finding my sisters obituary. I have numbers but it almost seems weird to call them after all these years. Has anyone ever had to deal with something like this ?
 
37 years here but no success tracking down. 3 stepsisters etc.
 
Artjr said:
Has anyone ever had to deal with something like this ?
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I saw a movie once about a man who rode a lawnmower across the United States to visit his estranged brother.

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Sorry for your loss. A friend reached out to me to help her find her biological dad when her mom told her she had an affair and got pregnant with her, on her death bed.

We found the guy and he never knew, but acknowledged her as his daughter and accepted her in his family. Dream scenario for her given the history.

Hope that helps
 
Yeah, I feel ya bro'.

Mum's been married 3 times and the gals are her 2nd husband's kids. When he got with my mom they "rebelled" against him, swearing they'd never talk to him again. For whatever reason they chose to throw the baby out with the bath water and cut me, my sister and my dad out too.

They were best friends of the family for many years and one of the sisters was my girlfriend, so a pretty-weird situation. :dunno:
 
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Artjr said:
Due to the loss of my sister I found 3 other 1/2 sisters and a brother I have not spoken to in 40 some years. My niece from that side of my family reached out after finding my sisters obituary. I have numbers but it almost seems weird to call them after all these years. Has anyone ever had to deal with something like this ?
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Yup. Found out I had a younger half brother about five years after my older brother died. It was weird. At first I had nothing to do with him because his mom was playing some mind games. Then later we got kinda close. Now-we have nothing to do with each other. Not angry about anything…just life.
 
Never mind family, I got a few friends from way back that have messaged my band page telling me "call me".

Why?

You ain't been there for 30 years, have no life, and now want to include me in your circle? You had my number, never called. I invited you over when you were gonna be in my area and you never even acknowledged my messages? I reached out a bunch of times only to get spurned but now you wanna be homies all of a sudden when it suits you? Have a great life now get lost.
 
VonBonfire said:
Never mind family, I got a few friends from way back that have messaged my band page telling me "call me".

Why?
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I've had a few former friends that pulled that one me. Hadn't heard from them in years and now I'm supposed to call them? It's just because they want something. No thanks.
 
In January, I found my half-sister that I knew about for 32 years. I knew her first name and that she lived in Michigan. We share a loser of a biological father and he wouldn't tell her my last name when they talked once, so she only knew my first name and that I live in Green Bay. I have never talked to him. Long story short, I was able to piece some things together, found who I thought was her on Facebook. Sent her a message and confirmed. Was an awesome day...
 
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In January, I found my half-sister that I knew about for 32 years. I knew her first name and that she lived in Michigan. We share a loser of a biological father and he wouldn't tell her my last name when they talked once, so she only knew my first name and that I live in Green Bay. I have never talked to him. Long story short, I was able to piece some things together, found who I thought was her on Facebook. Sent her a message and confirmed. Was an awesome day...
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Awesome story! Are you the same J.B. from harmony central from way back? If so you had some awesome high gain clips, back then!!
 
don't pay at this point. what diff will it make
My cut off rule for relatives and friends are 5 yrs
if no communication after that time period its over
 
@70 Mach 1 your 5-year rule is understandable but I wouldn't discount the possibility that you run into an old "good buddy" and continue as if your last encounter was yesterday.

They're the best peeps in my book - what you see is what you get and their behaviour is consistent, yesterday, today and tomorrow.
 
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@70 Mach 1 your 5-year rule is understandable but I wouldn't discount the possibility that you run into an old "good buddy" and continue as if your last encounter was yesterday.

They're the best peeps in my book - what you see is what you get and their behaviour is consistent, yesterday, today and tomorrow.
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well I understand that. I've saw some old navy buddies over the last 40 years. We were like brothers in the same electrical shop.
we were tight as tight. we trained, worked and chased hoes together. fought each other like tigers and made up the next day

this happened on a quite few occasions even with family after not seeing each other for decades

you BS about about the gold old days and how great they were. this that and the other thing and we are all laughing.
Then after a few beers and an hour or so the conversation gets quiet. nothing else to say.

its then you realize that you have nothing else in common but the good old days. there is no more chemistry.

sometimes is best to leave the past in the past

this is why im not on FB. dont want some high school relic from 1980 looking me up
 
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