Man, honestly there are some classic “pedestrian” amps that are just tried and true.
The biggest thing in my opinion on what you may be missing out on is the “I’m in the club” experience, which is a real thing. There’s a social aspect to gear that can not be denied and it has an absolute influence.
Shit, when I go to shows, I always try and see what gear people are using. Look at this forum. One person mentions a Wizard, then everyone that’s owned or played one pops in. Now. Don’t get me wrong, Wizards sound amazing and as I understand the build quality is aces. But part of why you buy a Wizard is greatly due to how they are spoken about in groups. By and large, most average guys have no idea what a Wizard amp is.
Friedman is another story. Pre-BAD, Friedman’s were a grail amp only regularly attainable by rock stars or people that had a lot of discretionary income. I mean they still are to an extent but now you can get them with 48 month, 0% financing. The BE-100 was something I wanted for ages, and now I have one. I’ll never get rid of it. It gets all the tones I want. Like Wizard though, there’s also a communal part of owning a Friedman. Especially one of the “big boy” amps.
To put it in perspective, when you go see a band (in average situations) and see a 6505/5153, DSL, or say a Dual Rec, as a guitar player you’ll instantly recognize “cool rig…”
Then you go to a show and see a full set of Wizard, Friedman, Diezel it’s more “damn! Nice fucking rig!” I’d argue you’ll spend more time paying attention to the tone as well.
I have quite a few pedestrian amps and I love them. I’d say each is equally as satisfying to play as my “high end” stuff. Had a Randall RD45H at the house for a few months and it was fucking dope. Played it more than anything else while I had it. Super fun amp.
Basically a long way to say, the EXPERIENCE around playing/owning boutique stuff is not just about the tones. Good tone can be had very cost effectively.
Also, buy used! You can find killer deals on really expensive stuff if you have cash in hand.