Everybody should take notice and try to be kind and understand mental illness.

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I'm not posting this for pity but there is mental illness and I lost my mom on the 11th due to suicide she was a wonderful mom but she had her demons no drugs no alcohol just her mind. Look for signs don't take for granted that people are going to be okay if they don't seem right give them a hug a kiss whatever they are needing because when they're gone it's too late. This is my wonderful mom with my daughter when she was just a little girl. She is twenty five years old now. I'm not trying to be a downer but I hope this message can save someand your families or friends.
very sad bro..mental illness is real but sadly I don't think there is anything anyone can do if a person wants to leave this world .. all we can do is tell them we love them and that we are here for them but then we also need to put things in place so that we can deal with the "loss" if/when the worse case happens. My brother tried to kill himself 15 years ago .. he lives in another country so I had no idea that he was at that point .. I still feel helpless if he reaches that point again as I am not able to see him face to face but I do "talk" to him online as much as I can .... I think he just hit rock bottom 15 years ago and it wasn't mental illness, it was just a kind of self pity .... but that is assumption purely based on non physical interaction
 
Please accept my most sincere condolences for the loss of your beloved mother.
 
Sorry for your family’s loss. Couldn’t agree more on mental illness.

My mom has dementia and it’s getting really bad. Just the other day I found an old Bridge Grandmaster certificate from 2007 and it made me remember how sharp she used to be.
 
So sorry to hear about your Mom. Much love to you in this terrible time.
 
So sorry Greg; I can relate as I’ve lost both parents in the same year, 6 months apart.
I’ve been a mental health nurse now for most of my career and it is true that once someone makes up their mind to leave, there really isn’t much we can do to prevent it. Medications, counseling of course can help but not always. And, some of the medications side effects are worse than the symptoms to the patient. Some demons cannot be defeated unfortunately. Every day they wake up and the pain, real physical pain manifests and the only way out is to end it. It’s hard to understand but it is a real thing, and anyone who tries to deny the seriousness of a mental health disorder is nothing more than a complete idiot at best.
 
Losing a beloved parent is one of the worst things in ones life. I hope you have other family members whom you can lean on. Please try to understand in your heart that she is no longer suffering. Mental illness is a truly evil thing to deal with.
 
So sorry Greg; I can relate as I’ve lost both parents in the same year, 6 months apart.
I’ve been a mental health nurse now for most of my career and it is true that once someone makes up their mind to leave, there really isn’t much we can do to prevent it. Medications, counseling of course can help but not always. And, some of the medications side effects are worse than the symptoms to the patient. Some demons cannot be defeated unfortunately. Every day they wake up and the pain, real physical pain manifests and the only way out is to end it. It’s hard to understand but it is a real thing, and anyone who tries to deny the seriousness of a mental health disorder is nothing more than a complete idiot at best.
You do a tough job man . That’s awesome
 
A loss from suicide seems unfathomable after it happens. So much confusion, shock and despair comes flooding in. One could argue it’s a harder loss to deal with than a death from health issues. I’ve experienced both and the suicide death of one of my best friend’s was a time I never want to relive. Especially when they seemed happy. That’s the real mindfuck right there.

You got a forum full of us assholes who are here for you man whenever you need it. I’m sure I can safely say that without speaking for myself only.

My sincerest condolences to you bro. One day at a time. You’ll get through it.
 
So sorry to hear this Greg. My mother has severe dementia and is threatening suicide by pills in the wake of her husband for 40 years passing last week. Mental illness is brutal. May you grieve as peacefully as possible.
 
So sorry Greg; I can relate as I’ve lost both parents in the same year, 6 months apart.
I’ve been a mental health nurse now for most of my career and it is true that once someone makes up their mind to leave, there really isn’t much we can do to prevent it. Medications, counseling of course can help but not always. And, some of the medications side effects are worse than the symptoms to the patient. Some demons cannot be defeated unfortunately. Every day they wake up and the pain, real physical pain manifests and the only way out is to end it. It’s hard to understand but it is a real thing, and anyone who tries to deny the seriousness of a mental health disorder is nothing more than a complete idiot at best.

Are you still working in mental health? I think I've switched fields 3 times since I found out you were a nurse
 
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So sorry, my condolences. I really appreciate the sentiment, we all have our demons.
 
So very sorry for your loss and what you are going through right now. Welcome to 2023 - where forums like this are where many of us seek, find, and enjoy the type of camaraderie that was only available in person, face-to-face when many of us grew up. I totally agree that online connections with kindred people can be very meaningful and supportive during challenging times. I have struggled with clinical depression throughout my entire adult life. Most medications have side-effects that outweigh the benefit. I live my live unmedicated and constantly aware of where I am on my own sliding scale. The one thing that always pulls me through is the fact that emotions are like tides - they ebb and flow. I have learned that no matter how bad I may feel on any given day (often for no real reason) I know that those feelings will recede and I’ll feel pretty darned good again - and for quite a while. I have so much sympathy for those who get to the very bottom of that swing and genuinely believe that things will not get better. That must be terrifying and debilitating at the same time. Life is so short. And so much of what stresses us out is so damned unimportant in the cosmic scheme of things. It sounds trite, but don’t sweat the small stuff and (the older you get) it’s ALL small stuff.
 
Are you still working in mental health? I think I've switched fields 3 times since I found out you were a nurse
Yep. Still doing it but in an outpatient clinic setting these days; vs inpatient centers previously.
Difficult at times but the no weekends/holiday schedule is gold to me vs my 24/7 shift work that I’ve done most of my career.
 
The one thing that always pulls me through is the fact that emotions are like tides - they ebb and flow. I have learned that no matter how bad I may feel on any given day (often for no real reason) I know that those feelings will recede and I’ll feel pretty darned good again
Absolutely man! Unless a person has been there, I can see where people might not understand and things may appear selfish, etc. Most people can't even explain why they are down...they just are.

I'm into looking at life as "Seasons" now. Life ebbs and flows with relationships ending, hardships, etc. but each day is a new day.
 
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