I actually like it when an instrument fights you a little. Not saying it makes one a better player, but that I like it. I'm a big dude, with strong hands....so I don't have that finesse. I practice it, but sometimes you can't really help it. Which is why Gibsons always feel at home to me.
I think it's more about the "right" gear, but sometimes people don't know what's right for them.
Right tools for the right job. That takes experience, and that can be expensive.
I've been lucky that most of my tools can handle most jobs....then I am the tool.
Buy seriously, the instrument...is you.